This week at Offbeat Bride is meat- and dairy-free — it’s Vegan Week! Day 4 of Vegan Week brings us the full scoop on the Bioshock cupcake topper wedding. Anna & Jon had quick ceremony followed by a mini-reception featuring awesome vegan cupcakes!-Becca
The offbeat bride: Anna (Tribe member)
Her offbeat partner: Jon, film & tv editor
Location & date of wedding: Family backyard, Toronto, Ontario — May 22, 2010
What made our wedding offbeat: After being engaged for almost three years, we decided on the backyard of Jon’s aunt — a lovely, private space in the heart of the city.
Jon is an atheist, and I’m basically a new-agey type spiritualist, so we were thrilled to connect with the unitarian church in Toronto. Our lay-chaplain helped us design our own ceremony, which included a celtic wine ceremony.
Everyone stayed for wine and vegan treats.
There amazing cupcakes decorated to reflect the art deco aspects of our favorite video game, Bioshock. They had edible blue Morpho butterflies, a reference to the game and to our “proney” (pre-honey) moon to Costa Rica. Topping the tower of cupcakes were two figurines from the game.
Jon designed our programs to reflect the game and used pictures of the characters.
Tell us about the ceremony: I wish I could just copy and paste the entire ceremony in here. I loved it. We did a celtic wine ceremony, which included drinking once for our past, present and future and naming each other as our Anam Cara or soul friend.
Best of all, our ceremony was roughly fifteen minutes long!
Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was committing to a date and location. Every time we sat down to plan something, the money scared the hell out of us so we abandoned the idea. Finally, we realized that it was going to cost some money, and there were going to have to be compromises, like a teeny tiny guest list.
My favorite moment: As part of a series of unfortunate events, I completely revamped the first part of the day. Instead of going to the ceremony location to get ready, my sister and I went back to my apartment alone. It was a moment to re-group and take some photos.
My parents came and picked us up in a cab, so the four of us had some time together. When we arrived at the ceremony site, I immediately found Jon and we greeted guests together. Totally unplanned, but completely us.
We had four short speeches that were all lovely, but my mother, who was asked to talk about me when I was little, was just amazing. She made everyone laugh and cry. She had a moment to shine, and no one can stop talking about it.
During downtime between the ceremony and the pub, Jon and I wandered around an area of Toronto called the annex/yorkville with our photographer and his wife. They are amazing people, and they gave us a moment to just BE together.
Our friends partied with us at the pub until roughly 4am in the morning. We simply have the best friends in the world.
My funniest moment: For our wine ceremony, whomever prepped the goblet didn’t pour very much. In front of all the guests I had to throw my head back while I drank to get any wine. It looked like I chugged wine for each part of the ceremony.
Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I assumed it was going to be a day that I just had to get through. My expectations for having a good time were very low. In fact, I had a great time!
My advice for offbeat brides: Read “Of Brides and Zillas” and read it often. I wish it has been posted before my wedding.
Try not to anticipate how other people are going to act and feel. They will often be/do the opposite and the unimagined result can be startling.
Be kind, especially to yourself and your partner.
What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Even though this is something you only do once – you can still learn about yourself, your partner, your family and friends. It can be stressful, even emotionally painful, but it’s 100% worth it.
Enough talk — show me the wedding porn!