Maybe you just got engaged and you’re waiting for the flowers to start raining down from heaven, but not quite feeling it. Maybe you thought wedding planning would feel like a unicorn showing up and shooting glitter out of its butt, but instead you’re barely able to get out of bed and there’s no unicorns or glitter butts to be seen. Maybe instead of feeling happy about your engagement, you’re feeling freaked out, bummed, or just plain ol’ depressed.
I don’t know what depressed bride needs to hear this today, but you’re not alone.
For some folks, they’ve been planning their whole lives to get engaged. For other folks, while they are really looking forward to being married, they’re not so much into the idea of planning the wedding. If you’re a depressed bride, we’re here to say that you’re not alone. Here are some perspectives from other Offbeat Bride reader’s who’ve found themselves depressed during wedding planning.
If you’ve struggled with depression before, old feelings may come back
I’ve been suffering from depression since I was a teenager. Good therapy and medication has really helped me and I am in a good place, but after 13 years of Effexor, I started to wean off. It’s been three weeks without any medication now and boy…it has not been easy.
All sorts of “old” feelings of insecurity and feeling not good enough have started to come back. Plus the physical side effects aren’t a picnic either. Even though I know I’m strong enough to beat this, it’s hard. Planning our wedding gives me such joy but some days it creates a lot of stress. Will I look alright? Won’t I look ugly/big/less than someone else? What if I take a look at the pictures and can’t see past my flaws and insecurities?
I’m so lucky to have a wonderful fiancee… at the end of the – wedding – day it is all that matters is the two of you continuing your lives together as a couple! This has been and will continue to be my mantra. -Daphne
Seriously, you are not alone. Louder for the people in back:
Even if you’re not depressed, sometimes you just feel like you’re not happy enough or something? That’s normal, too!