My fiancé loves to wear a bow tie and suit jacket, and equally loves to wear little dresses — and she’s at an absolute loss as to what to wear for our July wedding! She’s got a faux-hawk with the sides of her head shaved, and loves playing with gender expectations. Sometimes she’s soft-butch, sometimes she’s femme.
So: dress or suit? Long dress-vest with linen pants? Boat-neck A-line dress? And most importantly: where do we look to find appropriate wedding attire for a cis gender-bending bride? — Kimberlingo
When it comes to wedding attire, there are a lot of unexpected and fabulous ways one can simultaneously flirt with femininity and masculinity! Here are a few that I came up with:
Add a colorful tie
Neckwear is for everyone — and the number of brides who opt to wear a neck- or bow-tie proves it. There are plenty of brightly-colored options like the ones below.
At Cristina and Adrian’s colorful vegan wedding, half of this wedding party joined in on the tie-wearing fun.
Michelle rocked this bright pink tie at her Star Wars and Disney wedding.
I love this bright yellow bowtie from Maggie and Theresia’s barnyard wedding!
Go for denim
You know what we love? Brides in jeans! Corrie and Renie totally pulled this look off at their Great Gatsby-styled vineyard wedding
Kelsey and Heather had a super laid-back farm wedding in 2012, and jeans were totally rocked.
Of course, you two might not be into the denim-and-blazer look, and luckily designers have got you covered:
Susanne and Ricki, aka Kitten and Lou, are a drag king and burlesque queen who got married in Washington earlier this year. As you can see, Lou was rocking a seriously incredible suit (with turquoise touches!) from Danial Webster Design the day of.
I love this trick from Sam and Julia’s 2007 wedding — one could go from donning a black velvet dress during the ceremony to rocking black skinny jeans for the reception.
Duchess Clothier offers high quality suits for men and women.
Bindle & Keep is a New York company that specializes in hand-cut bespoke clothing for men and women.
If these options don’t do it for you, check out this excellent post by S. Bear Bergman, author of Butch is a Noun, and a whole host of archives celebrating brides in pants, clothing options for the genderqueer, and butch wedding suits.
Gender-playful folks, we want to hear from you: What are your favorite looks for folks who like to add a twist to gendered wedding fashion?